I think most of us are willing to disciple someone; we just need some basic steps to follow in helping other people grow. Here are some principles to remember as you start meeting with another person with the goal of helping him or her grow spiritually.

When I was a first-semester freshman in college, some guys showed up to my dorm room and asked me if I was going to go through fraternity rush. I had no idea what they were talking about! I soon found out that it involved parties, girls, and large amounts of alcohol. 

I was once asked to consider taking a new job in the organization I worked for at the time. I decided that getting counsel from some other people would make sense. But a business leader outside our organization was shocked that I would ask others' opinions.

Is it just me, or do toddlers seem to have a built-in independence muscle? How many times have we heard a three year old say, “I do it!!”? The problem is, we don’t grow out of it! We just put a more adult spin on it. It must be a result of the fall of humanity! 

I remember sitting heartbroken in a church service the week after my mom had died suddenly, at the age of 64. I was 41 years old. Pam and I had been attending the church for a year, and had been teaching a Sunday school class for several months. But I realized that not one person in the congregation even knew that my mom had died. 

In the New Testament we read about the way the early church lived—dependent on one another in a way that’s difficult for American Christians to imagine. What holds us back from living this way?

We know that community is a vital idea for us as God’s people. But how do we make the most of it? How do we tell if we’re experiencing the fullness of fellowship the way God designed it?

Watching a favorite holiday movie reminded me of community and the American love of independence. But what does that independence spirit cost us?

One American value that does not help us in our disciplemaking is the idea of rugged individualism. How does God view His human creation and our reliance on one another?

You may have read my last post and said, “Wow, Doug, how in the world can you actually lead and make hard decisions, if you are reflecting Jesus!? In my world…”

I get it, but hear me out.